Let's have a quick chat about the married date night rut. I think you know what I’m talking about. You spend all the money on babysitters and FINALLY get time away from the chaos of daily life. Time alone. Together. No kids. All this anticipation of it being THE THING that makes all the other… Continue reading how to date your spouse
While I liked the new movie, "A Wrinkle in Time," I was disappointed to find some beloved characters and storyline missing. Meg's storyline and growth with Aunt Beast was completely missing. Meg and Charles Wallace's brothers, Sandy and Dennys are absent. I also was disappointed they didn't show more of Calvin's story and character. In… Continue reading true beauty
We don’t want you to know how much it costs us emotionally and financially to do what we do because it’s not about us. It takes years of school, a year of unpaid work, and years of experience and supervision, a licensure exam, and infinite paperwork to become fully licensed. Once licensed, we attend at… Continue reading 5 things your counselor won’t tell you
“You should be a teacher, Mommy,” Caleb tells me last night. “Why’s that, bud?” “You have good behavior. You yell sometimes, but you mostly have good behavior. You are nice to me. You left your job to have more time with me. I love you, Mommy.” “I love you, too buddy. More than you know.”… Continue reading I love you, Mommy
“He has autism,” I say. These words are so limp and useless. They are inadequate and meaningless. The yawning gap between those 3 words and our reality is so hard to describe. I want to be understood, but the truth is, I barely understand it myself. My guess is that you have something like that,… Continue reading I hate you, Mommy
I’d like to think that my master’s degree in marriage and family therapy and 3 years of total immersion soaking in wisdom from the greatest counselors and professors in the area would qualify me to a better understanding of what makes marriages work. What makes them last. But the truth is, knowledge can only take… Continue reading learning to love
These are some of my #metoo stories; a few I've never shared. I’m sharing these because they left me feeling like all the things women so often feel when they are harassed, objectified, and assaulted: confused, shameful, embarrassed, or less than. In italics, I wrote the words I either told myself or heard from others… Continue reading #metoo
You should have left or pushed him off you. At least he didn’t… Are you sure that was assault? That just sounds like bad sex. Why did you put yourself in that position? Why did you flirt/kiss him if you didn’t want to have sex? Did you actually say “no”? I don’t think he would… Continue reading 11 things not to say to someone who has been sexually assaulted
Part 2 of 2. Some more practical advice for fulfilling sex with your husband: Find your "at least" number: How much sex should you be aiming for? What’s normal? And the answer is….(drumroll please) that’s up to you and your husband. I advise that you sit down with your husband and ask him what he… Continue reading How to get in the mood, II
Part 1 of 2 For most women, myself included, having little kids has made the journey to the bedroom with my husband a little bit more complicated. I've had many clients lament why God made men and women's sexual desire so very different. I have a theory about that. I think maybe God made us… Continue reading How to get in the mood
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