I was over all the things when I finally made the decision to stay home. I was over myself losing my patience, again. Over feeling like I couldn’t give enough to anyone: my kids, my clients, my husband. Over always feeling overwhelmed and behind. Over the phone calls and emails with more bad news, losses,… Continue reading Not just a mom
We'd already waited outside the club for so long it was no longer free. We were new to the whole going-out-thing. As we looked around at the other people in our line, we realized we were both woefully underdressed, and far too Caucasian to stay in said line. I was with my 2 friends, Jessica… Continue reading The night we met
Let's have a quick chat about the married date night rut. I think you know what I’m talking about. You spend all the money on babysitters and FINALLY get time away from the chaos of daily life. Time alone. Together. No kids. All this anticipation of it being THE THING that makes all the other… Continue reading how to date your spouse
We don’t want you to know how much it costs us emotionally and financially to do what we do because it’s not about us. It takes years of school, a year of unpaid work, and years of experience and supervision, a licensure exam, and infinite paperwork to become fully licensed. Once licensed, we attend at… Continue reading 5 things your counselor won’t tell you
I’d like to think that my master’s degree in marriage and family therapy and 3 years of total immersion soaking in wisdom from the greatest counselors and professors in the area would qualify me to a better understanding of what makes marriages work. What makes them last. But the truth is, knowledge can only take… Continue reading learning to love
Part 2 of 2. Some more practical advice for fulfilling sex with your husband: Find your "at least" number: How much sex should you be aiming for? What’s normal? And the answer is….(drumroll please) that’s up to you and your husband. I advise that you sit down with your husband and ask him what he… Continue reading How to get in the mood, II
Part 1 of 2 For most women, myself included, having little kids has made the journey to the bedroom with my husband a little bit more complicated. I've had many clients lament why God made men and women's sexual desire so very different. I have a theory about that. I think maybe God made us… Continue reading How to get in the mood
Part 2, of 2. Quick 411 about Winshape Marriages: Winshape offers 3 categories of care for marriages: prepare, strengthen, and save. Within each category, there are many different programs offered. I wanted to do our intensive through the Center for Relational Care (CRC), as this program was the class that ignited my hope for a… Continue reading flame lit
The story of our Winshape experience, part 1 of 2. “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” –John 10:10 ESV The truth is, there is a large part of me that doesn’t want to share about our experience at Winshape. It… Continue reading Hope ignited
our messy joyful life 